She is scared—how can she be sure you are trustworthy and she didn’t make a grave error by sharing her situation with you? She has had no power and control over her life and the lives of her children. Let her have some control as to how, when, or if she leaves.Read More
If he will not get help for his abusive behavior—emotional, verbal and physical; he will have to leave so that YOUR children (even if they are his biologically) can feel safe and happy in their own home. This is of the utmost importance. Your children deserve a happy childhood and a happy home.Read More
Dearest Naghmeh, my Sister in Christ, I BELIEVE YOU, I SUPPORT YOU, I LOVE YOU…and I am here to tell you JESUS LOVES YOU…I AM ALSO HERE TO APOLOGIZE for our uniformed, judgmental Christian brothers and most shockingly, sisters. Our people are woefully uninformed about domestic violence.Read More
I feel the need to address Franklin Graham’s response which is both disappointing and harmful to women of faith in abusive marriages.
His response epitomizes the lack of Pastoral knowledge regarding the VERY DIFFERENT dynamics of an abusive marriage which require a VERY DIFFERENT Pastoral response.Read More
You have a right to ask your husband about the financial status of your home and family without being yelled and cursed at, threatened, or worse, physically attacked. Crush the Financial Eggshell! End Financial Abuse!Read More
These women are walking gingerly on the proverbial eggshells all DV survivors talk about and teaching their children to walk on them too. They are trying to protect their kids from direct violence and from witnessing violence. They are trying desperately to keep the peace.Read More
It is time for change. It is time to let women know they are loved and valuable members of the church body and if they are being abused, they will have pastoral support and sanctuary in the church to get the help they need to leave their abuser safely.Read More
Statistics show that a staggering half of children living with unrelated males are sexually abused. They are seven times more likely to be molested than they would be if you remain single after your divorce.Read More
It may be dangerous for you to say, “This is what you need to do if your dad gets angry.” Your child may repeat that to his/her father not realizing the problem that would cause. You might instead tell them you are going to teach them what to do in case of emergency:Read More
It is often a consequence of being a victim as a child of a dysfunctional home and upbringing that you are susceptible to an abusive man—even as a Christian.
Your past experiences may have rendered you unable to recognize red flags or act on them once you saw them.Read More
We can stay and SAY we are still in a covenant marriage relationship with our husband…we can say that, but we no longer are. One person does not a covenant make and you will be on your own…in dangerous territory.Read More