It is time for change.  It is time to let women know they are loved and valuable members of the church body and if they are being abused, they will have pastoral support and sanctuary in the church to get the help they need to leave their abuser safely. 

It may be dangerous for you to say, “This is what you need to do if your dad gets angry.”  Your child may repeat that to his/her father not realizing the problem that would cause. You might instead tell them you are going to teach them what to do in case of emergency:

It is often a consequence of being a victim as a child of a dysfunctional home and upbringing that you are susceptible to an abusive man—even as a Christian. 

Your past experiences may have rendered you unable to recognize red flags or act on them once you saw them.   

You are no longer the two who have become one.  You are not on the same team.  He is willing to bring others, anything attached to them, and any disease they carry into your circle. You trust the sacredness and the exclusivity of your marital bed but he is willing (unbeknownst to you) to bring another woman or women into that bond and expose you to disease and potentially death (HIV/AIDS).