The reason is clear...he is of his father; the devil. This will be hard to read, but once you understand the following, you will understand that you are at war and you and your children are under attack (whether you want to be or not).
You must protect your children from evil because your husband, your protector, their father…is working for the “other team.” When you don’t understand why your husband is treating you the way he is, treating your children the way he is, disregarding your marriage the way he is, refusing to provide the way he is, refusing to go to counseling to save your marriage and family the way he is, and dealing treacherously with you and his own flesh and blood (his children) the way he is…you need to recognize the realm you are in.
You can limp along, praying and hoping for change for years or decades or your whole life; waiting for a man to change who has no intention of changing his behavior.
Instead, you need to recognize the realm you and your husband are operating in. We know there is a spiritual realm but we forget about it when we are under fire. Remember!
If you have been a good, faithful wife and mother--if you have self-assessed and self-assessed some more, if you have been pleading to go to counseling to save your marriage and family and your husband has refused to acknowledge the problems; or worse, your request to go for help is met with another verbal or physical attack, you are in danger. Things are not going to change! You cannot look at your husband any further as a reasonable man. He is not listening to you or to God and in fact, he is rejecting God’s will. You MUST understand that to move forward and protect yourself and your children properly.
Even if he goes to church every week--do not be confused. Again, he is NOT listening to and WILL NOT listen to God or to wise counsel.
Read and reread these words of Jesus Himself in John 8:43-47: “Why do you misunderstand what I say? It is because you are unable to hear what I am saying. [You cannot bear to listen to My message; your ears are shut to My teaching.] You are of your father, the devil, and it is your will to practice the lusts and gratify the desires [which are characteristic] of your father. He was a murderer from the beginning and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaks a falsehood, he speaks what is natural to him, for he is a liar [himself] and the father of lies and of all that is false.
Recognize the enemy; that is the only way to properly protect yourself in a spiritual battle!